Doing large wedding cakes for family members actually caused me missing the ceremony of one and missing the 'bride's day getting ready' of another.
I plan and prepare and think I have a timeline under control only to find I didn't budget nearly enough time. It's not as if you can do cakes ahead of time.
I believe it's come to "me or the cake". If you want me at the function in good form, don't ask me to do the cake.
I imagine many a baker has experienced this and probably come to this same conclusion LOL.